“I’ve explored obsession. I’ve explored loss and love in terms of being in a grief-stricken place, I’ve explored strange sexual fetish stuff, I’ve explored the mundane aspect of marriage, and monogamy,” the 42-year old star of new movie “Nine ” admits in her interview in the December 2009 issue of British GQ.

Nicole Kidman admits to the entire world that she’s explored a bit of kinky sex. Her provocation reveals just enough detail to wet our appetite, yet Kidman leaves our appetite to know more simmering on the stove.

Many people find sensual restraint more provocative than a full revelation of all the “dirty details” of one’s private life. Digital existence threatens to end the possibility of sexual exploration and discretion without taking careful, sensible precautions.

Kidman’s tight-lipped approach to her private life, in the midst of sexy innuendos, leaves us understanding that she is fully committed to exploring and understanding the woman in the mirror.

Nicole Kidman and Tom Cruise in “Eyes Wide Shut”In spite of Kidman’s starring in the provocative movie “Eyes Wide Shut” with her then husband Tom Cruise, the A-List Aussie actress attaches ‘mundane’ to the Cruise marriage and a more provocative sensual union to her current husband Keith Urban.

The Kidman and Urban marriage is described as “raw and dangerous”.

“I know I live inside some rose-colored cloud but I’ll never waver on it. I am not writing a book. I will go to the grave with all my secrets, all my stories.”

Kidman’s New Role as Einar Wegener

Nicole Kidman takes career risks in her movie roles, not only starring in Stanley Kubrick’s film “Eyes Wide Shut” but in her new film in which she will play Einar Wegener, a Danish painter who was the first person to get a sex change operation in 1931.

The role of Wegener’s painter wife Gerda Wegener will be played by Charlize Theron. After painting her husband wearing women’s clothes in a series that became the rage in Copenhagen, Gerda challenged her husband to dress as a woman.

The couple moved to Paris, where Lili Elbe, as Einar was then known, could live openly as a woman under the guise of Greta’s sister. Lili died after her fifth operation, to insert a uterus in her 50-year old body, so that she could bear children for a man seeking to marry her.

The open-minded artist Greta went on to marry an Italian military officer, aviator and diplomat, Major Fernando “Nando” Porta as “a magnificent, splendid and peerless hunk of man”.

Most Hollywood starlets fear a movie role like playing Lili Elbe would make them damaged goods, perhaps result in a boycott of her films in some parts of the world, but Kidman is willing to explore her own identity as an artist and a woman.

The women of “Nine”Kidman in “Nine”

The timing of Kidman’s British GQ interview comes as PR for “Nine”, which all deny is a reinvention of Fellini’s infamous 1963 movie “8 1/2” but the facts of the movie are obvious.

The curvaceous women of 8½ are clad in shockingly sharp shift dresses, demure gloves, and enormous, veiled hats from under which their immaculately lined eyes gaze blankly out. Shot in cool, grainy black-and-white, 8½ starred the sexiest actresses of the day, including Anouk Aimée and Claudia Cardinale via Style.com.

Taking a break on the set of “Nine”, Nicole Kidman towers above Penélope Cruz and Kate Hudson. Vogue expresses surprise that Nicole looks so fabulous, six months after having baby Sunday Rose with Urban.

“My baby gives me energy. I don’t feel tired,” says Nicole. Claudia was played by Claudia Cardinale in 8½. I can’t resist asking Nicole how she feels about being a movie icon playing a movie icon who was once played by an Italian movie icon. “No!” she insists. “I’m not playing Claudia Cardinale. Even when I played Virginia Woolf I didn’t take the real woman into account.” Nevertheless, (director Rob) Marshall says he picked Kidman for the role because “when Claudia comes on, she has to be the iconic film star, and Nicole has really attained that in her life.” via Style.com

The totality of Nicole Kidman defines her as a woman not willing to live life inside Pandora’s Box, with the top wide shut. Kidman insists on opening the lid on forbidden topics of women’s sexuality, and yet she becomes a trusted Smart Sensuality role model in her discretion and restrained approach to topics that make most women squirm themselves into a complete state of self-denial.

It occurs to me this morning that celebrity media is obsessed with women in pursuit of publicity provocation.

Beyond this often tacky commercial exploitation of our own voyeurism lies a more subtle and discriminating want and need to explore sensuality and sexual identity with discretion and respectability. As more thoughtful, holistic women who understand that history and religion burn “bad girls” at the stake, we express a restrained desire to wade into rippling, modern-life waters, just to feel the cool water on our bare legs.

Large numbers of men also embrace this more refined, yet fully honest and open exploration of sensuality, one generally led by older women. It’s only when a woman has experienced life beyond the patriarchal rule book and lived to tell about it, that she gains credibility on the subject.

Nicole Kidman is a woman of daring integrity, a taliswoman paddling a quiet canoe on the ongoing journey into the full blossoming of female sexuality and Smart Sensuality values and principles. Anne

British GQ is on newsstands today. The movie “Nine” has a release date of Nov. 25, 2009.

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