'Emotionally Intelligent' Women Have Better Sex | MBA Not Needed
/I chuckle over the young women models used in the coverage of researcher Tim Spector of King’s College London findings that women most in touch with their feelings have twice as many orgasms as women not in touch.
Not wanting to be the bearer of bad tidings, it’s my understanding that the hot, brainiac 25-year-old with multiple sex partners is the most sexually dysfunctional (defined as not having orgasms — at least not without her rabbit) of all women, by age or socio-economic status.
Why assume that ‘brainiac’ women have ‘emotional intelligence’ and therefore, better sex? An MBA doesn’t qualify any woman as ‘emotionally intelligent’ and therefore, a better, more sexually-satisfied lover.
In fact, based on new research on women bullies at work, educated women might possess a serious ‘emotional intelligence’ deficit, at least in business. It seems possible that this attitude could easily spill over into a woman’s sexuality and bedroom relations.
I do believe wholeheartedly that ‘emotional intelligence’ is the key to better sex, if we’re not rating an orgasmless, gymnastic feat in the bedroom as good sex.
All (not) kidding aside, this study is a step in the right direction, indirectly undermining one of my passionate topics that women who thrive on being the ‘slut’ — translated the sexually-empowered woman who bangs ‘em and leaves ‘em breathless — is not nearly as sexually-liberated as she claims to be.
Somewhere down there in her soul (trust me, she has one), there’s more pleasure waiting to be unleashed, when the self-professed, sexually-aggressive ‘slut’ yearns for a more intimate sexual experience.
My apologies. As you may surmise, I’m not a fan of women of any age, who think that ‘slut’ is a sexually-liberating role model for females. Women are far too psychological, emotional and sensitive for that logic to hold up in my playbook.
Doing the act and experiencing a positive sexuality are too different endeavors. One is f———; the other sexual intimacy. There’s a difference.
This new research is terrific in moving us away from pure technique and foreplay — if men would only get it right — into the deeply-felt emotional psychology that impacts women’s sexuality.
One must also understand the learnings of ‘happiness research’ in interpreting who has, and doesn’t have “emotional intelligence”.
I hope the press doesn’t just jump on the obvious headlines, like the Daily Mail and Marie Claire. It’s arrogant to assume and degree-educated women are by definition ‘emotionally intelligent’. They SHOULD be, but I believe the reality is often not a positive correlation. Anne